It’s common for someone to encounter a toxic person amidst one’s life journey, be it at work or simply someone really close to you. Sometimes, even you can be toxic. Though it’s not always obvious for one to be aware of their actions, however, their consistent behavior can bring or cause trouble in most unknown ways.
“Everywhere you go, there will always be someone who will make life a bit difficult for you, intentionally or unintentionally. It’s really up to you to sanitize your space and empower yourself from within.”, says Global Master Coach and international best selling author, Myke Celis.
Talking to the person behind the phenomenal global coaching brand #bestmeever is such an empowering experience indeed. Myke Celis has this inspiring and sunny demeanor that makes you feel comfortable the minute you engage with him. Much like his bestselling books, the celebrity life coach who’s making waves globally, speaks with much wisdom and compassion coming from his wealth of experience as a professional coach and as someone who has experienced having toxic relationships before as well.
Myke has coached various celebrities, executives and successful people of the industry world wide – people who have experienced much toxicity in their personal spaces – and all of them have managed to rise above and free themselves from the harmful relationships they’re in, whether with others or with themselves.
Dealing with toxic people can be tricky at times because important relationships tend to mask them. The first thing to know is that you have to acknowledge that you are in a toxic space, according to Celis.
“Coaching allows you to gain clarity in your current space so that you can realize what is working (and what is not) in order to be truly empowered within. What are you really tolerating? It helps you “sanitize” your current space as you build a “protective shield” around you to prevent these toxic people from getting the best of you. Remember, these people will only prey on those who allow them to express their toxic behaviors freely.”
“The thing with having toxic people around: they tend to make you forget about yourself and your worth. That is what makes you feel more and more uncomfortable in the process. So self-detox is key. The questions I normally ask to help my coachees are: why do you tolerate it? What is the value that you’re getting? What do you need to give up in the process? Is it all worth it? These help my coachees reflect more and realize the need to free themselves from the toxic relationship they’re in. On a personal note, I believe that one doesn’t have to feel guilty when cutting ties if that will give him/her the peace of mind and heart he/she wants and deserves. Not everyone has to play a role in one’s story – more so if they present themselves as villains all through out. You can always focus on your happily ever after instead.”
We asked the celebrity life coach how are things different when the his coachee is the one who’s toxic unknowingly?
Celis, an Associate Certified Coach of the International Coach Federation (ICF) and advocate of self-empowerment, answers:
“I always encourage my coachees to take a step back and inquire within, simply because at times, they may not be aware of their own toxic behaviors. We journey together to reflect on their struggles and the results they get in their lives. It’s all about helping each one of them break down their toxic walls built from hurt and pain stemming from previous experiences by providing them with a safe space that will allow them to just let themselves be, minus any form of judgment. You see, sometimes, people become toxic as a defense mechanism or because they fear of being judged as weak or less of a person than they are. When they begin to trust me, the process and themselves, that’s when they heal within and release their toxic behaviors.”
It’s no wonder that this down to earth Global Master Coach was recently featured in Coach Magazine-UK as one of the most successful coaches worldwide because of his unique and highly effective coaching style in approaching seemingly difficult personal matters, such as having toxic relationships.
Coach Myke Celis ends this interview by sharing these beautiful reminders to help people overcome toxic relationships:
“Remember, you don’t have to prove yourself or allow yourself to suffer simply because you have a relationship with the person involved. It’s all about securing your space and not tolerating anything that robs you of your worth and your joy. After all, you know yourself better. Affirm yourself thereafter with the words you need to hear so that you will be truly empowered from within. Lastly, choose the people you surround yourself with – those who can help you grow and add value to your existence. Don’t ever settle for less.”